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[MJontheMend]

Well, I look slutty and I am slutty, but I don't think the two things are related. I wish I had a more refined Meryl Streep kind of look because it would be more fun to be the sexy librarian type of woman. Also, I wouldn't mind having small breasts because then I could wear those comfortable little stretchy lace bras or just a cotton t-shirt or even go bra-less sometimes. What could be more sexy than that?

[annette]

I agree with you Jenny. I have 38DD's and I hate having to wear the support type bras all the time. I wanna wear cute, sexy, lacy things, but with those ta ta's you can't.

Annette

[MustangSally]

well, let's start this by saying you don't have the body of a 12-year old boy, you have the body of a woman (however old you are )

Having said that, I am the owner of a pair of natural, 34DD's. Yes, I'm a tiny little 5'3" chick with humongoid boobs. And I felt like a freak. Strangely enough, I started off a largish C-cup, and got bigger everytime I was pregnant...so I worked my way up.

An interesting note also, I worked for a Victoria's Secret call center for about 4 years...I've had more discussions with women, breast size and all the emotions involved with that than you can possibly imagine. As a general rule, I got lots of recently post surgery women who were excited to be buying new clothes and bras and all those low cut tops...and lots of other women further down the road who realized that larger breast size didn't solve any of their problems.

All I can say is don't even consider surgery. As it's said before in this thread, it's usually really confidence issues with the woman more than attraction issues in men that drive women to this. If you feel the need to build your confidence THIS way...please try to find another way.

And if you think your breast size has anything to do with your drive...I have gone through long periods of my life where I was REALLY low drive...

Frankly...I don't "get" how women can stand having those hard unmoving fake breasts...I can barely get comfortable in bed (sleeping) with my relatively soft real ones...and you can do so much more without these huge, distracting THINGS bouncing around.


As a side note...I actually had a breast reduction about 9 years ago...at that point I was having pretty major back problems, I was wearing a DDD...went down to a C-cup. Freaky thing, over the last 9 years, they very gradually grew back??? I put on some weight but the trend started well before that and losing weight doesn't make them any smaller. Right now I'm holding steady at DD, which I can live with. And I'm not having any back problems now, so as long as I don't keep growing, I'm not going to try to hit up my insurance for another reduction. Anyway, I have a love/hate relation ship with my breasts, for now. Sometimes I hate'em, when I'm trying to buy clothes or even digging through my closet for something to wear that doesn't make me look like a hooker, or just fat (too loose and I look pregnant, because you can't see my other attribute, a waspish waist, too tight and well...you know). Other times I kinda like 'em...

[honeypot]

WB,
That is positively weird.

I never hated my breasts, or breasts in general. Just didn't see what the sexual fascination was.

Plus, as I said, I had more than a few instances where I learned lessons the hard way re: breasts. There was a boy in school who used to throw pencils on the floor and ask me to pick them up. It took only one time to figure out that he hadn't accidentally dropped a pencil in my direction but not before being humiliated in front of him and a group of his friends. Not that it traumatized me or anything but my point is that I learned some lessons QUICK, like all girls do, but at the same time I learned to downplay my breasts. People tended to think I was more sexually experienced than I actually was, simply because I had large breasts! How stupid.
I was, and am, a thin person so they stick out big time. Picture Olive Oyl with Dolly's rack and you will have an idea of what I look like, lol.
Ok, not that dramatic but still..it has taken me a long time to find them sexy because they represented nothin but a headache to me for a long time. In fact, it was Jenny who kinda prompted me to look at them differently and now I think they're pretty cool!

CN, sorry to hijack this thread into never never land.

[NotATLDave]

This is a really interesting question because I was just talking to my neighbor (who had a small BA a couple years ago) about this a few weeks ago. As a lean marathon runner, she claimed to always feel like a "boy" until she had the boob job. Now she feels more "womanly" and "sexy" but her self image still wants to hang onto the "old" version of herself and she still struggles with seeing herself that way.

I assume it will take time for her self-image to catch up with reality (if that's even possible). I think any procedure to change a "genetic predisposition" would take a bit more time to get used to then simply "youth-ifying" yourself. For example, a (well endowed) woman whose breasts shrank after breast-feeding probably still views themselves as well endowed OR, if they see the shrinkage, and have a BA, they are only "normalizing"...not "enhancing" which means less psychological adaptation.

I'm not advocating a BA over au-natural. I'm just saying that my neighbor did it and it worked for her but the self-image took a bit of time to catch up. Also, she doesn't have a problem with "attention" because her BA was very proportional to her body. Just do what feels right for you.


-AtlDave

[Lillieperl]

This is an interesting discussion (as usual). Regarding having the body of a 12-year old boy-- Back in 1988 I went to school to become a massage therapist. I didn't stick with it, because my other work was easier and more lucrative, but the training was immensely valuable to me personally. One of my classmates (who is still a massage therapist) was sexually molested by her father (I don't know to what extent, but I think it was rather extensive) and eventually her marriage broke up because of her aversion to sex. During one of our classes, we stood in front of the class in our undies and our teacher and classmates analyzed our bodies, how we walked, etc. (It sounds creepy, but really it was okay. The class was small and we became very close and safe with each other.) One of the remarks the teacher made about this woman was that her upper body was very undeveloped. She had very small breasts, very narrow shoulders, and in fact, I believe he actually said, "she has the upper body of a 12-year old boy." It was as if her body has gotten stuck in an unformed, undefined, pre-adolescent place. Before her marriage to her husband (which broke up) she had had a very intense intimate relationship with a woman. She told me one time that she knew no relationship could ever be as intense as that one was. Anyway, the remark about body shape prompted this memory. Not sure if/how it relates to the thread.

[COgal]

Ok, I fall somewhere in between at 36B. I'm also 46 (for another 17 days anyway) and have no sagging after breast-feeding 2 kids. H claims to like my smaller breasts but doesn't follow through on that claim as he doesn't have any desire to touch them...except maybe once every 6 mos. or so. He's probably being truthful about liking small ones though as all of his "hidden" porn stuff usually consists of small-breasted women.

[cinemanymph]

No, FuzzyK9, I am not thinking about a boob job.

Lillie, you have touched on something I have long had suspicions about, that the body can respond to abuse in some pretty creative ways.

Honey, I've always seen myself as a kind of heavy metal video girl minus the cleavage. My friends tell me I can pull off slutty without looking trashy. I always hoped that it had more to do with my personality than lack of cup size. I guess the thing that gets to me most is that I can't fill out those merry widows!!

[cinemanymph]

Cogal,
Reeeeallllly, I didn't know there is porn with small breasted women!!

[cinemanymph]

OG and Wildeman,
Thanks for your insites.

I know my husband is attracted to my body no matter how small or large my breasts happen to be. H has never made any comment about my size.

Growing up, everyone always called me "Little Mite". During adolecence, I was "Michael" (a neighborhood smart*ss decided it would be funny to call me the male equivalent of Michelle and it stuck). During my singlehood, I was roommates with a trio of sisters, all well endowed. My nickname was "Buttons". All of my nicknames have had something to do with my body/breast size. It's enough to make a girl think that others find such measurements important!