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[cinemanymph]

Greetings all! Hope everyone enjoyed their holidays.

I was reading Jenny's breastfeeding analogy and wanted to take the discussion in a different direction; that of breast size. I have been blessed with female attributes that are, well, less than stunning. Because I don't have a mature looking body or face, I can tend to rationalize a lot of my immature behavior. Is it possible to have the outlook of a mature woman whilst dwelling in the body of a twelve year old boy? Ante up ya'll, does size count?

[sat567]

More than a mouthful's a waste, sweetheart.

Are you thinking about getting a boob job? Save your money!

Hairdog

[OG_Lou]

cinemanymph asked {{Ante up ya'll, does size count?}}

cinemanymph To me a woman that thinks small breasts (32AA) are the reason something is wrong with the R, #1. is causing the R to be less than it could be, or #2. is hanging out with the wrong man/men. But that is only the way I see things in the size arena.

I would much, much rather be with a 32AA woman that showed genuine affection than a woman 36B / 38DD that thought my attraction to her was connected to her breast size so she was reluctent to show me true affection.

Breast size to me is not important. Attitude is almost everything.
I am with Hairdog. Be proud of all of your good points including those hot 32AA if that is what you have.

Is this type of answer what you were looking for?

OG Lou

[Bube]

CN,

Nope, size does NOT matter.

I find it kind of strange that the vast majority of men aren't concerned with breast size, but a lot of women seem to be. Everything I've seen/heard/read about breast augmentation relates to how the women feel about themselves, i.e. more comfortable, more "womanly", more feminine, etc. But strangely, they all seem to feel that larger breasts make them more attractive to the very men who say that size isn't a concern.

Wildebube

[honeypot]

CN,
Are you saying that YOU often feel immature sexually because your body is small?

Hmm, I don't know.
I guess I could see how it would affect your mindset. If you are already an LD person, and you are also small, I can see how it would be harder to get in a sexual frame of mind than if you glanced down and were met with an eyeful of cleavage. So, yeah, I suppose it could factor into things.

I think, though, the more important question is how do YOU feel about your breasts? Do you find them sexy? If not, what parts do you find sexy? How do you emphasize the positive and play down the negative? We, as women, are old pros at doing that so I know you have your bag of tricks like we all do!

Perhaps concentrating on the good areas will help build confidence. Also, keep in mind that all women regardless of breast size feel self conscious about themselves. I won't deny that you have other issues that play into your sexual feelings about yourself, but I just wanted to commiserate that it is hard, sometimes, to get your mojo flowin when you don't feel all that worthy of it. Work with what you have and don't you dare think of surgery! I've never seen you, but I'm certain you are beautiful as is.

hp

[lost_in_translation]

Size only counts during the attraction stage of a relationship. A man is attracted to a certian type of person or physical appearance and the R goes from there. Once the R is in play and then not being attracted because of size is crap.

I agree that if you are hung up and being self conscious, then that is not good for the R. My W is SC about her stretch marks from our kids. I don't really care about them. But her attitude is dissappointing and frustrating to me.

[OG_Lou]

cinemanymph asked {{Is it possible to have the outlook of a mature woman whilst dwelling in the body of a twelve year old boy? Ante up ya'll, does size count?}}

cinemanymph can you post a list of your thoughts in more detail.

I did work in a group home where the boys that were 19 but looked like they were 14 were frustrated that most people treated them as younger kids and not almost adults. There were also some 15 yr. olds that looked 20ish and strangers gave them too much credit for being mature. Any of this resonat with you?

OG Lou. Looking for what is inside.

[honeypot]

CN,
Here is a different angle for ya.

I developed early and dramatically. By age 12, I was a double D.
A skinny, awkward prepubescent GIRL with big ta-ta's, are you picturing that lovely scene, lol.
Anyway, would you say that it would have been appropriate for me to have had a sexy attitude at that young age, simply because I had big hooters?
I'm guessing you are saying No Way!

In other words, your sexiness comes from who you are...and your shared experiences with your H...and the love that exists between you, not from a body part.

I DO get what you're saying and I can actually relate to it. This past year I spent pregnant and did not fit "society's" view of what is sexy. However, I still felt sexy and dressed as sexily as possible, despite the fact that what I was showing off was not of interest to, well, anyone! It was coming from inside me. Furthermore, it was not originating in a genital space--feeling sexy, imo, is not the same thing as feeling horny, although they frequently occur at the same time for me. Sexiness in my case is a feeling that flows up from inside me because I feel attractive and womanly and powerful. (of course, it helps if you have a partner who recognizes this and allows you to have some power, but that is another thread!:)

Anyway, I think that your size will affect things to the extent that you allow it to.
I could have become fixated on my large breasts at age 12 and, coupled with the attention they received, acted promiscuously. I didn't because that is not who I was INSIDE. I was still a girl and it took a long time for me to reconcile the girl inside with the womanly body, as I'm sure all adolescents go through.

In fact, my distaste for my breasts (due to this early development and the weird reaction I got to it) has been something that stuck with me my whole life until recently. I never got a sexual thrill out of my breasts because I had spent SO much of my life downplaying them and trying to understand their attraction and seeing only flaws.
In the past year or so, I have gotten re-acquainted with my breasts and even like them now! This is a huge shock to my H, who became accustomed to ignoring them..as I did. Now that I think they are sexy..and a part of me...imperfect like the rest of me...he is loving them too! It is amazing how much attention he pays them when he really didn't for the first 9 yrs we were married. Amazing how my own attitude shaped and defined his. And how a change in my own attitude has accomplished the same thing in him.

I'm sure you are thinking that you don't WANT your H to like yours any more than he already does, lol, but I think it would be completely different if you two were SHARING this, instead of coming from opposite directions.

Just some rambling thoughts for you..
Take care!

[mandksdad]

Dear CN,

I think I would agree with a combination of lost's and Honey's answers: Larger breasts will get you a lot of attention, much of it unwanted, but they are irrelevant with regard to behavior in a long-term committed relationship. And to take Honey's analogy a bit further, few would believe that a man's size correlates with his desire to have sex, so long as he does not get repeated negative feedback about it.

OG_Lou wrote that he's "attracted to what's inside." I wish I could claim to be so noble. I am attracted to my wife's gorgeous body, and to much of what she says and does, but NOT to her sexual behaviors. She goes out of her way to thwart my desire.

Paul

[Bube]

I developed early and dramatically. By age 12, I was a double D. A skinny, awkward prepubescent GIRL with big ta-ta's

W too. I've wondered about lots of things over the years, but some of the things she's said about boobs, and her reaction when the MC asked her why she hates men gave me another thing (or two ) to ponder. W was disgusted by the adolescent fixation on her boobs - adolescent fixation that was quite normal when dealing with adolescent boys. As I've related several times, she's claimed to have been molested by her older brother, but the one and only incident that she has ever related was feeling her boobs.

She's also very sensitive to any naked breasts in movies. She's never commented on the sexual content, never commented on full nudity, male, female, or both, but she has never failed to comment if the nudity is limited to female breasts. And those comments are invariably deprecatory towards the breasts in question. The most common response being, “I don’t know what she wants to show them for – there isn’t much to show.” On rare occasions she’ll just gripe about them showing breasts at all, with some comment about why they always have to show boobs, but generally there’s some disparaging remark about the boobs themselves, the woman they’re attached to, or both.

On a similar note, we commonly vacation in Europe. We’ve been to western Europe several times, but since adopting D13 from Romania, we’ve tended to go to Romania at least once every couple of years to take supplies and to work in the orphanages. Most of the time we take a break from the working part of the vacation and spend a couple of days at the Black Sea. Well, this is Europe you know. A lot of the women are topless at the beach. This greatly offends W. Having grown up in Europe, I don’t see the big deal, but W takes great pains to avoid being in close proximity to any of the aforementioned topless women if she possibly can. When I was taking a few pictures, W admonished me to make sure that I didn’t get any of the “boob girls” in the pictures. Now we’re not talking close-up pictures of topless women here – just wide beach shots. Very weird if you ask me. Why the boob fixation?

W will almost never get over waist deep in the water (except clean, clear, solid-bottom pools), but two years ago, D(then)15 and I were out pretty far in the Black Sea jumping and body surfing in some fairly large waves. One big wave crashed over us and neatly removed D’s top. She told me that in that half-second burst that always runs through your mind at a time like that, she had three thoughts in rapid succession. First – oh no! Second, so what, it’s no big deal here. Half of the women out here are topless. And third, I hope Mom didn’t see that.

Wildebube