Corri: You just articulated about everything I've been thinking regarding her analogy. I was trying to break it down, prove it's irrelevance, and then just kind of went, "DUH" when I thought about the fear aspect. Seeing her as so very fearful helps a lot with my ability to be compassionate toward her. I know she has a fear of abandonment, but I never really looked too closely at her fear of intimacy, especially physical intimacy.
And you're right about those "why" questions. They seem to always be the prelude to an increase in hostilities. Such a smart woman, she is, to have such a lack (or be afraid of) insight.
