So she wants to know where you would be if a divorce happened...where would she wind up? If she is truthful in a future possible R with someone, will she be honest about her huge problem with sex? She would wind up alone...no man in his right mind will marry a woman who doesn't want to touch him sexually. It is clear she wants this M on her terms...I'm sorry, but asking you to do something about your normal sex drive is just outright wrong. You kept it under control for how long now? Sex once or twice a year? Does she realize how many men would be out the door looking for love in all the wrong places to satisfy their needs? As bad as that sounds, that is reality. You are not doing that. I think she needs serious counseling about her extreme aversion to sex and anything dealing with it. I have no idea how someone gets to that point...especially given she is relatively young woman.
