HD wrote:
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Just had another call with her. She said she had called her old employer in Columbia and wanted to know if I would fight her on the move, assuming that DD3 would come with her. I told her I would have to get back to her on that
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and your correct response : "Yes, I will fight to the death for my family, and that includes both daughter AND YOU. I certainly hope that you have enough backbone to fight for our marriage."

In the background, not for wife's purview: there are laws governing a spouse leaving with a child and crossing state lines. You and your wife (your wife especially) understand these rules. Get yourself a lawyer and make sure that SHE knows about the threats on false abuse reports. Tell her everything that is going on. You guys are both lawyers and need a different backup plan than others.

Expect your wife to get vicious before she takes you seriously.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.