I agree that now isn't the time to move to the basement. Let it play out a while longer to see what happens.
HD, I'm sorry for you about all this. It's such a waste! You two could be using all this energy for some great times together if only "power" wasn't the issue.
You've made some great points to her that she won't be able to squirm away from. Don't give it up now! (That physical intimacy thing with Mom was priceless, btw!)
