Honeypot is on to something there. I don't think that Mrs. HD wants a D but she does want to have her cake and eat it too. She wants all the affirmation and demonstrative loving from you without getting too close. She wants to be petted and loved with very low expectations of her. She also gets the joy of the intellectual battle with you - she is intelligent and needs that in her life. She wants all of that and to keep up her own shield of defense too. Well, it doesn't work that way. Marriage is about reducing your defenses with each other. That sister/brother deal is CRAP. Hang on HD and think about what you can do with her need for reassurance and intellectual stimulation from you.
