I actually don't think her love language is "words of affirmation." She told me that she had noticed a week ago that I hadn't been saying "I love you" to her. (BTW, I do say it to her...more than she deserves). So, for the past week, she has not said it to me to TEST whether I would say it to her. Apparently, I failed the test.

We also argued about what "in love" is all about. She says that surveys say that the "in love" feeling lasts for 18 months (WTF?...who does a survey like that?) I said that there is an element of a marriage that makes it different from any other relationship, and that the ingredient is missing in our relationship. I said it was physical and emotional intimacy. She said...get this...that she is physically and emotionally intimate with her mom and her sister...

H: You're physically intimate with your mom?
W: I like to snuggle with her.
H: Do you like to snuggle with her in the nude?
W: Of course not...although she did want to give me a breast exam the other week (her mom is an RN and W had a questionable mammogram which turned out okay)
H: Do you know the difference between a breast exam and loving fondling of a breast?
W: Of course.
H: Do you ever kiss your mom and sister with open mouth, with tongue?
W: No.
H: We are missing the physical and emotional closeness that should come with a marriage.

She said that it was a myth...that most marriages are more like the brother/sister relationships. I said that was bunk.

By the way, I did a good job of HOM during the convo, unlike the one last Sunday.

Hairdog