Very good that you said what Lillie said in her post. Perfect...and true. She is very controlling...even her telling you her "scale" of "love" and "ML" was all about her. Not about you at all, only the importance of it all in her world. Stay strong, don't back down now. The most important part is you were truthful with her...I would not bring it up and see if she does, cause it is bothering her. She wants you to show her love, the kind SHE needs (verbal), but she does not want to return what is it important to you, that being intimacy. She's digging her heels in again.
