No, our conversations are never what we imagine they will be on the BB. I even had a fantasy that going to the C would result in the conversations going more like I imagined. Guess what. They don't. Why? I don't know. My H rarely responds as directly as I imagine he would to the direct question I ask. Instead he usually responds to the embedded emotion. Sometimes he just asks a question to my question. It sucks.
You sound down. Remember please that Mrs. HD's refusal to have sex does not diminish your self worth.