In my ponderings on Ms. Nop's answer to the "comfortable" comment (OMG...so obvious...why didn't I think of that BEFORE!), and in my most fusionistic way, I've imagined the following conversation: W: (after I roll over after being rebuffed), See? You just need to learn to be comfortable with me saying "no." H: I know exactly when I'll be comfortable with you saying no. W: When? H: When I don't give a sh!t about continuing the relationship with you. Then, I'll have no problem with it, because I won't really care about your refusal, or about ML with you, or being your husband any more, or even being around you. And I have to tell you, that time is definitely approaching. W: Well, then why don't we just get a divorce? H: Given the fact that you're not willing to work on loving me in the way I have told you I need to be loved, I think we might as well start that process. W: I knew it. You don't love me...you just love sex. It doesn't matter who you're with. Typical man. H: And that belief, which I have had to deal with our entire marriage, is why you will never know what love or marriage really means.
and on and on....
It never really happens the way we set it out here on the board, but I'd rather she just figure out that I'm worth a sh!t and that her life with me is better than a life without me, and worth the effort.
