I think TV is a drug for some people. I think this is especially true when people combine it with another drug like beer or junk food. I will admit to occasionally using Matlock as a sleeping pill.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Thanks 2nd chances...I see through the "no one's gonna be as good as me" crap, and will call her on it if it comes up again. I think she threw it out there to try to show me how wonderful she is, and probably to let me know that every other woman out there is worthless, oh, and that I can't attract the worthwhile ones, as well. That's not the issue. I know that now. When she comes up with this stuff out of the blue, I just kind of don't know what to say (deer in the headlights).
As for TV...I realize its effects on the sex drive. I want to mention that "24" is the one show which I will be taping, and watching at work during lunch with two of my co-workers. So last night was the last night I will be watching it in real time for the rest of the season. There are no other shows which I "have" to watch, but sometimes I choose to watch certain shows W likes, like ER and West Wing, so that we can be together.
I've thought a bit more about the "school marm and recalcitrant student" comment from Ms.Nop yesterday. It really hit the target. I absolutely need to stop taking her crap and asking for more. I need to resolve to be pleasant but not subservient.
Hairdog wrote that Mrs HD said {{ but that if I just "cooled it" on the sex issue, it would probably happen}}
HD I am in a jam. I robed a QuickWay store again. I got caught again. I am going to trial in 2 weeks. This is my 10th time I knocked off a QuickWay store. I know I am in big trouble. My defense is "If they would have quit putting me in jail every time I rob a QuickWay store, I would have quit robing QuickWay stores a long time ago.
Do you think I can beat the charges? Please reply soon.
Signed Honest Abe Lincoln.
Hope this helps you see the BS Ms. HD is spouting.
No, I never robed a QwickWay store. I worked in juvinile corrections for 7 years and heard lots of stupid reasons for doing dumb things.
OG Lou. Quit breathing, you will get used to it eventually. Not
I read an article one time about the relationship between TV and declining libido levels. Basically it said that prior to TV, there was little else for couples to do to while away the evening hours.
I think there are obviously MANY other factors to take into consideration but it was interesting.
We briefly had a TV in our bedroom but you all know how my husband loves his sleep...it didn't last long! We rarely watch the television in our living room anyway. We will check out a movie from the library and watch it over 3 or 4 nights. I can't watch TV for more than 45 min to an hour and he has developed this preference, as well. (isn't it funny how we influence each other in marriage, even when not trying to?) We never watch prime time tv, ever. I suppose when our kids get older we may go back to watching it occasionally as we did prior to them, but I don't see us ever being a big tv watching family. I'd rather play cards or a board game or read or take a bath. Hell, I'd rather exercise than watch tv.
Hairy, You sound great! Continue to fortify yourself and repeat those mantras in your head until they become who you are. Then give it to her, double barrel.
Quote: You sound great! Continue to fortify yourself and repeat those mantras in your head until they become who you are. Then give it to her, double barrel.
That reminds me. I thought of a line for HD to use. He should say "Trying to make me feel bad about myself will not help our situation or relationship.". I'm going to use it myself the next time my H trys to make me feel like an insensitive slut.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I think you'd be fun to have a beer with, although you'd have to promise me not to talk about anything technical, such as how to fix a printer or repair a carberator (sp??, lol).
You could entertain me with your stories about the young men you worked with, though!
Quote: I've thought a bit more about the "school marm and recalcitrant student" comment from Ms.Nop yesterday. It really hit the target. I absolutely need to stop taking her crap and asking for more. I need to resolve to be pleasant but not subservient.
I've been pondering the "I'll keep saying no until you're comfortable with it" aspect of this.
I realized when I would be comfortable with it.
When I no longer gave a diddle-squat about the marriage or my relationship.
Oh Mrs NOP, you have really hit the nail on the head with this one! That is EXACTLY when any person would feel okay with it! When they no longer cared!
Think about it folks... if you set out to PROGRAM a person to not care about making love with you, how would you go about it? Can you think of a better way that repeatedly saying no, until they were numb to you?
I love Mrs. Nops response. She is a wise woman. What is something in your W's life that she just cannot do without? What if she could no longer have her favorite coffee or lipstick or if she could only have it once she quit asking for it for some undetermined period? What can any of us do well for a carrot that has a stick of undetermined length?
Karen, who knows how long the stick is just not how to get the carrot more often
PS Lou - we have teenage foster kids (boys)who frequently list "not my fault" as their reason for just about everything they do and everything they don't do.
