Hairdog wrote {{I didn't bring up the once-a-week schedule, or me moving downstairs, and I WANT to bring this up. I'm tempted to do it in writing. I know, wuss's way out. I just get so damned emotional when I try to talk to her about this. It's really one of those role-reversal things, where the man gets all weepy and the woman is rock solid.}}
Hairdog, what is her e-mail address? I will tell her, the guys on the male support / "Loving But Frustrated Husbands" chat line have voted you men of the week.
Her {{ And you ALWAYS get aroused when you touch me...which is why I usually don't let you touch me}} Is the same as going in a restruant and ordering coffee and the waitredd saying you could have coffee but because you asked for it you can't have coffee. Your W did say she wants to make you happy, didn't she? There is a TV commercial something like this. Everything the people order the waitress tells them it is not available.
Take s sheet of paper and write your preferences (fore play, frequency ( 1X a month to 1x a week), positions, acts, starting date) on the top half, draw a line across the middle of the page. Below the line ask your W to do the same. Tell her this is an academic only experiment. I know, she will say you are baiting her.
{{ And you ALWAYS get aroused when you touch me...which is why I usually don't let you touch me}} Tell her tyouching her is nice but not enough to get you through a marriage.
HD, disregard my offer if you want. I see your W as a super controller that needs to have some of her manipulative behaviors challanged.
About your xW, your current W should not have to put up with her crap. How much time does your xW consume or take away from your current M?
OG Lou. Kind of a woos myself sometimes. Learning to say the truth and know I can weather the storm and be happy.
