Quote: During dinner she said, "You may find another woman who will make love to you, but you will never find one who will put up with your ex-wife, or love your kids like I do." There is some truth to that.
This makes me mad. IMO this is not a fair way to fight. She is trying to make you feel more emotionally fused to her by making you feel fearful about the alternative to putting up with her LD. This is the equivalent of my H telling me I was fat and saying "Good Luck." when I mentioned that I might think about taking a lover.
I'm sure your ex-wife is a royal pain and I'm sure your kids make themselves rather unlovable on occasion, but you are WRONG to believe that no woman other than your W would be able to tolerate the situation. This is the equivalent of me believing that no man would ever want to have sex with me when I was overweight. Maybe I would have had more difficulty finding a nice man who was attracted to me, but it wouldn't have been impossible. The fact that I had to lose the weight in order to take a strong stand is in some ways more indicative of my wimpyness in terms of self-esteem rather than my strength in terms of will power.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
