Thanks, IHJ for your analysis...hurt little girl . . . never really thought of her that way, but it ties in with her need to be ultra-competent. And her perception that she's not a very competent wife or lover. And her realization (hopefully) that her lack of competence in that area is because she hasn't tried particularly hard in the last few years to be a giving lover.
And Corri, why wait for our next life? Didn't you know that, on my way to Mexico, I was going to detour to (Michigan, is it?) your place, kidnap you, and make a run for the border?