Welcome back and a few comments while we wait for Corri to weigh in:
I was surprised to read about your W's sexual overture that day. It shows you that the issue is on her mind. The fact that she couldn't follow through is something she is wrestling with right now. On some level she knows she messed up and wants to assure that you will not abandon her...thus, the talk about moving in 5-10 yrs from now. She really doesn't want to examine what went wrong sexually for her that nite, to the point of emailing info on WI( what is the big rush). I am not sure what you should say, but you do need to let her know you see through her maneuvering, you don't want to abandon her, but the sex issue needs to be confronted.
I think it's good you didn't start this dialogue in the car; she is such a good arguer and can twist and turn things in such a way that nothing productive comes of it. I now only initiate relationship talks with my H when I have given things some thought and know what essential points I want to make. I don't go round and round in circles anymore.
My advice is to get in your mind exactly what you want expressed no matter what her reaction. It will make you feel better about yourself.
