Very true my friend. I suppose I just got lucky in that H realised something was wrong with the whole M and decided by himself that something had to be done. Now, in the past year not much in the sexual department has evolved, but he has been much much nicer to me and has stopped doing alot of things that I have told him time and time again bother me. We have alot of work to do, and I know it will be hard, and I also have to have a talk with H about communication and sexual things. I also have not gotten up the nerve to broach this. He does show physical interest about once a month, and when this does happen its not the least bit interesting. I could tell you exactly what will happen and in what order, but at least he shows SOME interest periodically, so that gives me hope that someday we can get on the right track.......... maybe.