I’m sorry, I’m not sure I do have a clue as to what’s going on in your H's mind, I’m pretty sure that he doesn’t know either.
You are only human and it is hard not to think of negatives, I’m right there with you in not know what’s going on!!
I think though we have just got to try and hold on to the hope that they will come to their senses.
My sitch took yet another turn this morning, I’m cannot seem to escape the daily updates, etc, etc.
My WAW was out with our mutual friends last night and I had emailed her when I got the invite earlier in the week to let her know I wasn’t going, I don’t trust myself in his presence, I’m sure I would snap and do something silly.
Anyway one of my closer friends who was also a close friend of hers pulled her to one side and asked her to refrain from in her words "being all over the OM" it was upsetting her. At this point all our friends know she had feelings for him, but don’t know they have been seeing each other, her close friend too. Anyway she told her to mind her own business and told her that they are not friends anymore!! And they went on to have a big argument.
Anyway, the fact that she told me that she was All over him has upset me big time, again I’m fighting off wanting to tell her to F off and finalize the D. I don’t know what to do as she tells me one thing and then seems to be so into this OM that I cannot see any hope. She clearly wants me there as a backup or just the best bits of my R with her and the Physical bit with him.
Don’t know what to do or think, I’m right in confusion land tonight.
Anyway, I cannot believe it has been 22 days since he was tracking you down to the party, time flies, yeah right it doesn’t. If you are like me those 22 days must seem like 10 years. It’s horrific this feeling of hopelessness we are in but we just got to keep plugging on.
I’m sure your H is infatuated at the moment just like my W, they will come out of it some time, its just we don’t know when. He's not pushed the D like you predicted, so that’s a plus that you would of been glad to take before Christmas, just try and keep positive, and although its hard, try and do some nice things for yourself. I wish I had had 22 days of being dark, that said my WAW is so into the OM at the moment even though she and my MIL tell me otherwise, she wouldn’t be too bothered.
Keep your chin up and I’m hoping things improve for you soon !!
