thaks PHM- and I am positive your strategy will work, as your W wants you to be her best friend, and will miss contact with you. Betcha is doesn't even go the full 7 days.
My H however, at one point when we first discussed the divorce told me he never wanted contact with me again, you could see he was making himself mad so it would be easier to talk about it (later i dicovered that the weekend he gave me a "decison" was the same weekend OW filed her D!They must have planned it all out) Then one day I was talking to him and said so are we gonna ever see each other again after this or what? And he said yea, we'll still keep in touch sometimes (but it did not have a sincere ring to it) Well, you know all the stuff that has transpired since.And here we are at Confusionland Park. It seems like forever to me, but calendar days its not too long, I guess. Hard to believe just about 22 days ago he had called me 2x in one day, and was accidentally riding by where that party is and asked me to go for the bike ride next day (which never happens). How can he go from acting all like he still cares and gave me hugs and kisses that make me want more, then (2 days later) cause he sees I was upset /hurt that OW called (still think she did that on purpose) he cuts me off from ANY contact whatsoever?He still has a bunch of stuff here, and has told SIL (who gave him an album for pics) "yea, I'll use this there are a bunch of pictures I'll have to go through..." I know I have probably repeated myself, from last posts, but I can't figure it out. You have any clues?

I do like to think he is not having a good day at the park either, his sitch is not the normal affair that one hopes to enter into for love either. And given how my H WAS(cause I don't know what 180's he's done in his life, he may be a totoally new guy for her)I can't see him doing the compassionate patient tolerant thing for a long period of time.Who knows, she may be able to provide that need he has to rescue for quite a while yet!


Thanks for helping me, sometimes its good to just get these thoughts out fo my head. I just can't help feeling that we can't even be friends now. I have reconciled myself to the fact that we are divorcing, maybe its best to start a new relationship down the line, but to never see or hear from him again after its over, it seems like such an immature, wasteful thing.