Sportster,
I know exactly how you feel about missing your H when there has been so many hurtful things said and done. I too wonder about how my H and OW are at night. I have the same questions about the kids, the bedroom, and the affection. I think it is a natural feeling, but I don't know what else to tell you. I don't know the next time I will hear from my H and I know the feeling of wanting to contact him. Anyway try to keep your chin up and I wouldn't bring up the D papers either (that's how I plan on "dealing" with my situation for now)!!!