You werent too harsh...I hope I didnt make it sound that way...And you are right, deleting the messages doesnt help bring him closer to me but it sure does make me feel GOOD. I actually have only caught 2 text messages and deleted them. I know that if I did it too much I would get caught. I do have a sickness when it comes to snooping tho. But when I first started it was actual spyware that I have not had on the computer since May. That was very hurtful. But I do check his email periodically...I am going to try to stop doing that. I have told hubby a number of times that I dont expect things to magically fix when he stops talking to OW, but with OW in our life our marriage will never be fixed. All I ask is that he stops talking to her for a month and see how he feels about us during that time. I dont see that as unreasonable. H has been texting me all day. It is nice, but then I am reminded that he does that with OW all day too.... ( Listen we all are here for reason, we believe in our marriages even tho our spouses dont right now. I have asked for a divorce, but I dont think H realizes that I am serious. I dont want to be divorced, but I dont want this anymore. For the next few days I am just going to focus on me being happy. Waiting for my copy of the 5LL's and I will read it and take its advice into heart. I am praying for all of us here, and I am glad that things are starting to go your way.
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