I definately am not regretting asking for D. As much as I love him and KNOW that if he were to give up OW, our R would be back on track 100%, but in the same respect, I have to have respect for myself and not be treated like he can put one over on me. Or be that wife who ignores the fact that H is having an A and continue in a loveless marriage.
I agree whole heartedly about how he turns the phone towards the wall...Like I cant pick it up and look at it...DUH! And believe me I pick it up, check the call timers, messages, etc and if there is a text message from her, I dont hesitate in deleting it. Same with the yahoo messenger account. I delete those too, and any emails she sends. She used to like to send him e-cards daily, so at that time I used to fight fire with fire and send them too (of course H has no idea that I have his password). And then I would delete her e-card so he would only get mine. IT seems like ever since H moved back home in Sept the e-cards stopped. Now I know she did not know he moved back home until Oct so I think she stopped sending them because she saw the contact between them dwindle from 200 minutes a day (Literally) to short sperts of convos. But she does know now that he is home, but I am sure that he told her he just moved home for daughter. It also seems ironic to me that we havent ML since shortly after OW finding out he moved back home. That was at end of Oct. So unfortunately sportster, you cant live vicariously through me on that one. BUt I have been able to get him to kiss me at least once a day, until last week. Last week he went an entire weed without kissing me and when I told him that he said no way. But of course since last nights convo he has not even come close enough to me for a peck. We do sleep in the same bed, but it is very lonely knowing I cant spoon him while I fall asleep. Even so, he purposely goes to bed after me, because he has to stay up to talk to OW on computer. If I do stay up too late, he accuses me of waiting up for him (which I am of course), then he angrily goes to bed. For the most part, we get along, we enjoy doing things together and laugh (even amidst a fight), so that is why I dont understand his ever famous statement of "I AM JUST NOT HAPPY." IN fact the only time it seems to me that he is not happy is when I am interfering with his ability to contact OW...Like a specifed time that they talk??? I do believe it is depression, but he does not want to go on medicine. We got him to try medicine in Oct and just as it was starting to work he went off of it claiming it made him have the jitters, which was true, but there are others out there! My focus when I did talk R with him this past week was that he needs to go back to the dr for meds, if not for me or himself but for his daughter.
I think the reason he was peppy with me and sent me texts today was because this morning when he left I sent him a text saying that I do love him...of course no response. Then later I sent him a funny text about his dr appt (possible ulcer) so he responded with a joke right back. Then later in the day he texts me to ask what time his appt was and then kept texting me funny things about the appt. Then the last text was..."Meet me at chinese". So I did, then when we left restaurant he calls me laughing telling me to slow down Mario...He always says I drive too fast. But then thats where it ended. We get home, and I give D a bath, he watches tv, and while I was trying to put D to bed, he went to bed without saying a word. So I ask him if he is going to bed for the night and he said I think so. But I know he will get up around midnight and play on the computer and talk to OW. I really dont know how he functions at work with how late at night he stays up to talk to her. I did not ask him to leave, but I know that he will if he goes through with filing. He will go to his moms. He will not make me leave because of our 2 yr old. He would push for the sale of the house if we D. But little does he know, I will fight to keep the house BECUZ of our D. I heard of one person who did that and H had to pay for 1/2 the house until child was 18. That gives me 16 yrs...LOL I ordered LL last night online, so it has not arrived. I hesitate stopping at the store at night, or going out after dinner because it gives H opportunity to call OW. So I stay around the house alot, which I know annoys H. I used to go out all the time....Hey running to store,etc. I do have to start doing that stuff again, because its not like one more call that day is going to make a difference. By the time I see him when I get home from work he has already talked to her plenty. I get home at 5:30 and he gets home at 3:30 so they have a date on the computer everyday.
Sorry this post was primarily about me, but like I said, I appreciate your input and for you to give me advice you should know all the details right?
You didnt mention if you sent the text. Did you? Sun
