Thank you so much for your much needed advice. You have been such a huge help to me, more than you will ever know. Well update; As you kow last night I told H to get a divorce and he agreed. Well today he is acting different. He is actually peppy and nice and sent me various text messages today. He will not acknowledge what happened last night, but I know that he did not end it with OW, because he has his cellphone in the usual position, facing the wall so I cant see if a call comes through. So I am still left here wondering what the hell do I do. I truly do not want to continue like this with OW in our life. You are right, I have to make a list of the pros and cons and what I expect out of each day. No affection initiated, so I have alot to think about tonight. I think for tonight I will just keep my distance in the house. Today H went to the dr and he possibly has an ulcer. I SO wanted to say, well if you werent trying to lead a double life, than maybe you wouldnt be having these problems....But I Bit my Tongue!
For you; texting. I am like you, I want to have some kind of contact with H. When H was not living at home, I used to initiate contact via text all the time. Just to put me in his mind if even for a moment. I found that if I said something mushy, then NO response. If I said something snide, I would definately get a response, and if I said something funny then most of the time a response. Maybe you could text him about the bill coming in the mail. Something like, "Finally the vet bill came, sent you a copy ok?" Not pushing for the money, yet it should jog his memeory. Definately not pursuing so it is still like you are remaining dark. I dont know, the worst thing that will happen is that he doesnt respond and it left you no different than if you hadnt text him at all. Let me know what you decide to do.
For me right now, I am going to put the list in my head of what I need to do on a day by day basis. I know I am fortunate that H is at home, but my heart is hurting ya know?
