(((((sun))))) I am so sorry you are going through this. But I do understand how you could have gotten to this point. There are some days I sat looking at those divorce forms and thought about driving to his place and saying here ya go, call me when I have to meet you at the court house. What will you do if he says he does not want D? Have you said he will have to move out? The only thing I don't like about LRT is that you have to really be willing to take the consequences, it cannot be an idle threat. BUt if you are at that point, and it sounds like you are, iys ok to want to move ahead in your life. The positives should outweigh the negatives, and if they don't it you have to decide what is best for you and D.Let me know what happens, sometimes it takes a day or two to kick in.
I am panicking now that you said what you did about the bill. I could call him, but evryone says to stay dark, so i figured this was the best way. I wrote a note on the bill saying "Hello! They finally sent me a copy of this. Thank you so much for offering to pay for 1/2 of this,I appreciate it very very much". And I drew a cartoon picture of our dog on it. Its not like I sent a self addressed stamped envelope with it or anything, and it took me a half hour to finally figure out what to say so it would not sound like "hey YOU wanted to do this, why are you not now???" So I don't think I looked/sounded bitchy or anything. If he calls and says anything about why I mailed it to him, I can always say, at least I got ya to call me
Which brings me to my latest dilemma. Have not heard anything fro him since 12/25, that xmas text that I initiated. Is it ok to send an e-mail saying "hey, long time no talk, how are ay? Miss talking to you" Or do you think that would just promt his ignoring iyt, or asking for the papers?
