SUN- I'd LOVE the opportunity to NOT answer the phone! He -ain't- callin', and he's not coming around Maybe there is problems with OW, or maybe he is just having too good of a time with her? . I did mail out that copy of the bill today for our dogs cremation to him.He said on the morning we had to take him that he would pay half, no problem.When we got to the vet , I wrote the check for the $$. I said to him," Its ok, we'll settle later,ok?" He said "Yes". My sister said "don't be surprised if you hear from him now, and get attitude ("you had to send me a copy of the bill? why didn't you call me??)or he may just use that as an excuse to finally come over and get those divorce papers."
If you notice that your H is not trying to do things for you, what about you asking him to do something? Its too late for me to pull the damsel in distress routine, but not for you-is there no home repair you need done? Toilet stopped up? Computer crash? Car needs oil change? How 'bout a back rub? And a $400 necklace? wow- thats a pretty GOOD mixed signal to me, I'll take those kind of mixed signals every day
On the still hoping for positives side... 3 days into '05 and he stil hasn't asked for papers yet. I am luching with MIL and SIL tomorrow, they are driving 2 1/2 hours to come see me, and then we are all going together to see SIL friend. I want to try hard tomorrow to not talk about H that much and just enjoy them.We are having our "christmas" tomorrow as well.This is so hard, I think of them as my family, I've known them since I was 17! I am 47 now. My SIL says she thinks of me as a sister, and that is forever. During our last divorce I was very close to my SIL, and my nephew, and did lots of stuff with them. But then we moved back to Fl and that stopped.My SIL is having a rough time with her H he is emotional abuser, and hard core italian male, from the old school. If I ever win lotto, she is out of there.
I had to go house shopping today, and took my sister with me. We had fun, but I could not find one decent house in the 100,000- 130,000 range everything I found on the net and went to see was pure disappointment. I am so afraid the house will sell quick and I will have to just grab anything. I do not want an apartment cause its like throwing money out the window. I just HATE all of this- I'll miss my nice home with nice neighbors. Sure wish I could win lotto so I could buy H out. My mortgage is pretty low, much less than I would pay for apt. If the good lord has a plan for me that includes me having to endure all of this, I sure wish he'd let me know what it is, cause right now I feel like I am standing at the edge of the tunnel and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel -its the train comin through ....
