Just a quick note, I do think that guys like to feel needed and unfortunately he is eating up the neediness of OW. I used to rely on H TOO much, so that was one of the 180's I put into motion immediately after this started. I started to do things for myself. Something as insignificant as buying my own cigarettes. He noticed that right away and made a comment (months ago) oh miss independant huh? Now that I did that tho, he expects me to do it all the time. In fact I feel like the errand runner now, when he used to do all of that stuff. Now he just sits home while I run to the store for something. But I guess that is one of the small things that he didnt like about me. I guess what I am learning that there should be a happy medium. But right now, I am doing it all, which sucks. H hardly does anything for me anymore. When H wasnt living at home, he used to bring me something to eat late at night, bring me breakfast...now nothing. Today in fact he went to McD with D and knew that we were supposed to go to dinner, and didnt even bring anything for me. So here i am now, hungry while they ate without me. I am noticing now, that because I started to be independant, H doesnt try that much at all. But then for christmas he buys me a $400 necklace, why? Mixed signals...I hate them.
The only thing you can do now in your sitch is lay low. Dont give too much info on what your up to. YOu told me to go light...you need to go dark. Dont answer every call, as much as you want to. And believe me I know, Just dont. He has to start wondering. OK. Watch how much he contacts you after you dont answer a text or a call or two.
