H called the endocrinologist last week and found that he had to go to our GP to get a blood test first. This seemed pretty silly to me, could no one in the specialist's office draw blood? But anyway, that meant a little more of a wait to get in to see our GP.
Actually that seemed to work out well. H told our doctor (whom we both like tremendously) that he wanted his testosterone levels checked and gave his reasons why. She agreed that he needed blood work done, and added that she was also going to run two more tests, for anemia and for thyroid. She said that thyroid problems can have the exact same symptoms as low testosterone. This is something that neither H or I knew. Another feather in our doctor's cap, instead of just saying "yeah, uh huh, whatever, hold out your arm" she seemed to be familiar with causes of low libido in men.
So now we have to wait until next Tuesday for the results. I told H again how much I appreciated his bravery in doing something about the issue. He told me that in a way he was relieved to know there might be other causes of his lack of libido, as that expanded the options for correcting it.
I know that he is making a tremendous effort, not just with making (and keeping) appointments with doctors, but he seems to also be making a conscious effort to think about sex more often. He has initiated twice since the New Year and we've been averaging twice a week - two VERY satisfying times per week.
I've been trying my best to keep it low-key until I know he's okay with it, and then have been trying to really up the enthusiasm and make our times special. Some of the toys and lingerie that have been put away are again seeing the light of day! Well, the light of candles, mostly.
On the one down note of all of this, my best friend is no longer speaking to me, apparently. Right before all of this came to the crisis point I confided in her about how unhappy I was and she demanded that I "dump" (her word) my H and get on with my life. Now that we're working on resolving our problems she seems... I don't know. Angry, I guess. I'm sorry about that, but I don't have the emotional energy to really deal with that right now.
