Wow. I'm already overwhelmed with the responses. Thank you all so much. And I mean that.
I take the point about pushing the book. He knows I've ordered it, as I sent him a link to the first chapter that first day I found it. I emailed it to him so it woud be easier for him to "hear" and I put a note that "this validates what you said to me this morning" (that our lack of sex wasn't because he didn't love me) and that I thought reading this book could make both of us happier.
But you're all completely right, there is no such thing as *making* someone listen. Really listen, that is. Instead of the book's content, he will just hear "she's pressuring me again".
Just this bit of advice is invaluable. [takes deep breath]
Cathy47, you and I seem to be alike in that when I see a problem's solution (perhaps) on the horizon, I go after it! I just have to keep in mind that this is too delicate, and too important, to rush. My new mantra, I guess.
Thank you also for the dietary advice. I had read about low testosterone levels but knew that it would be almost impossible for my husband to aquiesce to a request to have this checked. Maybe later, but for now I can put my obsessive energy to get this fixed into this kind of research. I just feel like I have to be DOING SOMETHING, does that make sense? But I also have to be sensitive to his feelings. This seems like a good compromise.
By the way I looked for Honeypot's story and after clicking on "show all posts" the oldest posted were follow-ups, so perhaps her original explanation is lost to the sands of time. I did read quite a few of her follow-ups though and see that she is also a HDW, very articulate and quite worth some extra reading just of her posts.
If you only knew how much relief I've gotten just from posting here...
