Quote: Through reading books, here on the BB and interacting posts I am making changes. I did not get in the R mess in a day and do not expect to remedy the problems overnight. I am making changes that I see the W handling and that I have mastered to a degree. Some of the changes seem natural, but many feel so artificial at first I wonder if they will work. I read here on the BB they work for most people so I try them the best way I am able and let the chips fall where they may.
FYI, you're doing great! It does take time to make changes in our behavior, you're absolutely correct there :-) And sure, some of the changes may feel artificial at first...many times anything we do (that's forced) when trying to make changes in our behavior that's outside our "norm" or "comfort zone" will feel false or artificial.
It is so apparant to our spouses that we want change, what they don't so readily see (or at least recognize) is all the hard work you/I/& many of us are putting in to make changes in ourselves as well....for the health of our R's.
