You know...I used to date a man who was very close to your size. Now I'm not a tiny woman...I'm 5'7"...most people assume by the fact that I have very good posture and often wear heels that I'm closer to 6"...but I know what you mean...I felt almost dwarfed by this particular person....although, he by no means was intimidating towards me.
You mentioned you use your skills from the acting class...I know whereof you speak on this too...I too used to act and in fact used those skills to get over my shyness (there's some excellent tools to utilize from the acting fields).
My point to you is this though...in order for your wife to take you seriously about this problem (and I'm really glad you're making progress) you've got to be true to yourself. If this is a serious issue for you (as it is for all of us) be serious about it...don't use pretences.
I can only draw on my experience with this man I told you about (who by the way is now a great friend of mine)...he used to try to play off the intimidating factor of his size by being really friendly...I hate to say it but all too often he came off goofy...and it was hard to take him seriously. For me anyway (and obviously I can't speak for your W) I would have much preferred for him to be himself around me...be who he really was.
You're wife has been around you for some time, she's used to your size...she should by now know who you are, if she doesn't...it's high time she does. I guess the way I see it...don't be afraid to let your face express how you really feel, she needs to see and know how this important issue really affects you.
