I'm nothing if not honest Actually you hit on part of what I was trying to get across..."I" had to want to explore sex, to find out what some of these other people (who raved about it) were talking about.
I can guarantee (for myself anyway) that I wouldn't have wanted to explore that with someone who was constantly knocking me down emotionally/verbally. So now I use my past experience to help me empathize with my H in his current LD state. I know how negativity affected how I viewed what my ex-H said to me...he had already made up his mind I wouldn't do what he wanted, so why should I? It became a vicious cycle. I could feel his resentment and that bred resentment in me for him too.
