When I do the {{"give me one example of a time that I've gotten my way over you".}} My W comes up with examples of what I did wrong at one time not connected to the current subject. I say that her answer is off subject but do not get anywhere.
{{Hon, I need to talk to you...you may not like what I have to say...but this is really important to me so hear me out}} This works sometimes if I get dead serious and HOM just right. If I say (you may not like what I have to say) W tells me to not do her thinking.
From your post and how my W reacts to R talks, the general thing I get is to be less serious so I do not sound accusitory.
I ask if she can see MPV but W is convinced I want to control how she thinks. W says I come accross as "this is the way things have to change" or there has to be a certain outcome.
I have been told that I smile strangely when I communicate with people during stressful events.. Even been called Mr Rogers, the former childrens program personality.
OG Lou. Trying not to be a wuss, trying to be strong without overbearing.
