Thanks, HP. I understand exactly what you're saying about the unconditional desire. However, I suggest that what you're really looking for isn't unconditional desire from him but UNWAVERING and UNCEASING desire.

What I'm saying is that you want him to want you ALL the time, no matter the circumstance. (I think that IS the definition of HD.) But as a sane and mature W (that would be post partum ) you wouldn't expect that if you consistently acted in a manner that you knew to be offensive and disrespectful to him.

The first example is a desire to be wanted in a mutually loving R. The second is thumbing your nose at him and saying, "Feel what I want you to feel anyway."

I'm not aware that she's reading this yet. She hasn't said anything about it. I expect to hear her say anyday now, "I thought we were doing GOOD!?!?"

That will just mean that she doesn't believe I am serious (or doesn't remember what I said). That's my fault, BTW. I've gone back on what I've said to her so many times that she has no reason to believe me. My intent was to keep giving it another try, but the result is that I've been "all talk".

I'm sorry your H didn't like your dangly earings. He should have appreciated your attempt to look sexy anyway. If he didn't like them, he could always have pulled them off to nibble your earlobes.