My decision to go ND/LD was one I've toyed with for a long time, even before I found this BB and discovered the HD/LD terms. In the past, it was a place of defeat for me. I had a "victim mentality" and felt trapped into it. Now it's different. It's very much like a PM boundary where you refuse to accept "mercy sex". I can respect myself in it. I'm not trying to manipulate my W to do (or not do) anything. Neither am I committing myself to this forever. Things could change and I can be hopeful that they will.
It does feel a bit artificial. But like anything else, I will get used to it by doing it for a while.
