She just says that she felt overwhelmed. She admits that she shouldn't react in that way and that she only does with me.
A week or so after the last one she suggested that we spend the day together (code for "have sex after we clean the house and spend sufficient time talking"). I told her that I'd be glad to help her and take her to lunch, but that I didn't want sex. She asked why and I told her because of her outburst. She accused me of being unforgiving as I HOM. I calmly explained that I had been telling her for 24 years that refusing sex and blowing up on me would destroy my desire for and willingness to pursue her. After talking for a bit, she asked, "So what is it that I do?" I laughed and pointed out how insulting it was for her to ask me that. I asked her if she really wasn't listening or if she just didn't care enough to remember. She didn't answer.
As I said earlier, she "blows" much less often than in the past. She seems to care enough about it to limit when it occurs. Most of her long-time friends wouldn't believe that she acts this way. She has reserved this for family and my employees.
Good advice on how to handle it. I'll see if it works.
