Lou, I was NOT saying that it is okay in a woman but not in a man.
Here is what I am saying (and I don't mean to speak for all HDW's either): The mere fact that my H is LD is a bit of a turnoff for me.
I would expect that this is not the case with the guys because the guys know to expect that their wives will not have a higher sex drive than they do. So when they are faced with a wife who desires sex less than them, they are perplexed about the situation but the MERE FACT that her drive is lower than his does not make him think, Ewwwwwww!
It is a huge marital problem no matter whose drive is lower or higher--the fact that you have two people who don't agree on sex is a case of TNT waiting to go off. So I wasn't meaning to minimize the guys' situation whatsoever.
In fact, I would imagine that us HDW's have an easier time of it IF we are successful in getting our mates to work on things, simply because the guys do have testosterone and are biologically driven to pursue sex. At least in theory right!
