quote: ------------ I need to make decisions. ------------
Yep.
------------ I just doubt this will just go away. ------------
Probably not.
Rather than a heated confrontation, why don't you sit down with him. Let him know what you would like from the marriage. Keep it simple and the list short. Then ask him what his intentions are regarding the strippers, and your marriage. Ask him to be specific. Don't yell or get angry. Be calm and collected.
If he dumps some non-specific wafflers special in your lap, then you decide what you are willing to do. If he is willing to work on the marriage, then you two can discuss what needs to happen.
If he waffles, thank him and end the conversation. From that point on, you start planning for you and your kids lives, financially and otherwise, without him. Lose the fear, and devise a plan.
If you haven't had a chance to read "Love Must Be Tough" by Dobson, I suggest that you do asap. It may be time to kick his butt off the fence. There is a limit to the crap a person can put up with regardless of whose approach you use in addressing the issues. You can't live in fear of his character (or the lack of it) forever.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
