Your idea is an excellent one, but it assumes that he will admit he is commited to me. I've been trying to get him to do that now for months.

He filed for divorce, it had nothing to do with the stripclubs, that started later, in fact, it started after he dropped the divorce case.

I believe he loves me. I don't know if he realizes it. But most of his actions, and his reactions to me show it.

I am his scapegoat. Even if we divorced, I would still be the cause of all his problems. At least now, I've gotten him to the point where he maybe somewhat realizes that he blames me for everything. We kid around about it now, I even apologized about the bad weather, because, you know, it's all my fault.

He has never ever said that he wanted to stay married to me. He dropped the divorce proceedings for whatever reason...but he will not say he wants to stay married, he will not say he won't go to the strip clubs.

I think part of our issues is his family history. Everyone in his family: aunts, uncle's, parents, both set of grandparents, his brother, have been divorced. He had no idea what marriage was like, and I don't think he entered into it for life. In fact I think the only reason he's still around is that he really does love me. But he, subconsiously at least, EXPECTS divorce.



Anyway, I'm trying to figure out someway to make this a productive conversation, and I think your approach is a good one. I'm just not sure I can get even that much of a commitment from him now.

Sad but true.

He hasn't told me anything about his court dates, by the way. I may even start with that and see where it leads.

This really sucks because I was starting to relax a little, and now I'm so stressed again.

Slowly all the roles we act out become our Identity, And in the end we are what we pretend to be. -Jerry Cantrell