MustangSally. How about asking about the withdraws are a form of a progress report.
dear Mr Mustang. A year ago we were about to D because of money spent at strip clubs, and DWI. Now I feel like we have a chance to stay married. Can you tell me how you have been staying away from the strip joints and where you are in this process. I need your opinions and also need to see on paper what you have done since XX date.
I can imagine it is difficult to stay away fron those places. Are the times when you want to go the clubs again? Do you recognise triggering events that make you want to return to the club? Can you tell me what you do when those trigger events take place? Is there something I can do to help you think less about the clubs? I don't expect perfection, so please answer honestly. I need some facts so I can set goals for myself, and goals for the relationship.
OG Lou PS I am not a big fan of "It's my money" once there are children involved. Personal expences are OK, strip clubs, drinking, and DUI's are not personal expences.
