I just got around to reading your latest posts. I see you waffling back and forth over confronting him with your suspicions.
I have to tell you hon....you have got to stand up for yourself. Take a stand one way or the other...but take one. IMHO if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...it's a duck....chances are he's frequenting the strip club. He truly seems to have an addiction to this place.
Whether or not he's drinking, he's still frequenting a place YOU have told him your feelings on. He's still continuing to behave in a disrespectful manner towards YOU.
Being that safe place for him is all well and good in many circumstances...but it's my belief that in this situation...by being that safe place (and I think I know where you're coming from on that) you are still enabling the behavior. By not confronting him you are also not saying...."I won't stand for you treating me so disrespectfully"...and you do deserve to be treated with respect.
He knows the financial position the two of you are in...yet he appears to be continuing to frequent this place....you can put an end to how much damage he does to you financially.
I guess for me...I don't see the benefit of not confronting him. If yo pretend everything is okie dokie....then he's gong to believe what he's doing is ok, or at least that he's getting away with it. What good will that do? You'll only end up more angry with him in the long run.
If you confront him and he gets angry WAAAAAA!!! He's getting angry because he knows he's wrong. Oh! & that "WAAAA" was him sounding like a baby, not coming down on you k
Stand up for yourself, demand the respect you deserve...you can do it!
