I agree with you Lou, in theory, but what if he gets hit by a truck tomorrow and I stuck with two kids and a mortage and either paying for his previous lap dances or filing for bankruptcy myself?

I think it will be almost enough punishment for him, knowing his personality and his pride in his "perfect credit" to file.

I hesitate to bring up bankruptcy for precisely the reason you mention but I have to worry about how I'll help my daughter get through college, etc with that crazy debt hanging over our heads.

I don't know what the solution is, filing for BR feeds directly into his "not taking responsibility" problem and yet I can't imagine how we will ever, ever, ever, pay this off...we are far from rich. It boggles my mind that he has let this happen.


Slowly all the roles we act out become our Identity, And in the end we are what we pretend to be. -Jerry Cantrell