No kidding about the stuck pinky, CN...actually I believe it was 33000...can you believe that?


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Sally,
What are your plans with respect to the money?

Are you going to confront him with it?

I have to say that I had NO idea it was that kind of money. That's a lot of cabbage!

HP



Actually though, I wasn't that surprised. I had seen his statements but was thinking it was more along the line of 26000. I don't think I need to confront him with it. FWIW, and as much as it appears otherwise from what I've posted he's not an idiot...he's got to see that he's in deep financial doo doo here. I think confronting about it will just help him with the whole "big mean mommy" thing he trys to turn me into...funny cuz I am NOT that woman. It's just another way of blaming me for his problems.

At some point he'll probably make some comment about how we can't (insert something reasonable that costs money here, like re-tile bathrooms, take a vacation) because *I* don't contribute enough to the family financial situation I just got a real job after years of planning my life around the kids...working, but not making as much money as I can potentially. However, I managed to raise two amazing teenagers and accomplish tons of other things (finishing my degree, etc) and still bring home close to what I would have made if I had been working full time plus paying for day care...and was still around for the kids.

So anyway (now that I'm done tooting my horn) if I can manage to NOT say something like, "well I'm sure your little stripper buddies are taking a nice vacation this year, with all the money you threw at them", it will be a miracle.

Again though, feeds his little internal drama. But the subject will come up. I'm thinking about being reasonable and suggesting that he file bankruptcy. I have a feeling he's considering it already anyway, but wouldn't have the nerve without a little push. Frankly I don't think he deserves to get off that easy, but I have myself to consider. And since the bills are all in his name, it really doesn't hurt my credit directly.

He is really being an angel lately. I'm afraid what will happen when he's "done" with whatever happens with his DWI...will he go back to the same behavior?

Slowly all the roles we act out become our Identity, And in the end we are what we pretend to be. -Jerry Cantrell