OK, let's talk about MY sex life a little...

[MustangSally]

OK...just so ya'all know, I realize there are TONS more issues in this marriage than the sex part, but this is an issue that's bothering me and it seems an appropriate forum to discuss it...maybe?

I also need to say that while I don't think the "strip club" issue is over yet, it's at least temporarily on hold. If any of you have read Michelle's other books, I feel that my best bet at this point is to "act as if" we are OK as opposed to dragging the issues into everything we do, especially the bedroom.

And with all my heart, I do not believe that he is or has had sex with these women, even in the Clintonian sense Or we wouldn't be having this conversation at all.

I'm not in denial about where my marriage is, but I'm trying to salvage it and I do think I have half a chance. I think more than anything the whole strip club thing is a symptom of the mid life crisis thing, not the problem. It over simplifies things to say it that way, but I think that's the jist of it.

So, anyway Lou, while you described pretty much my fave thing...I'm pretty much able to do physically what I want, and I don't know how to describe things other than it's just an attitude...like he's doing me a favor all the time and maybe he wants me to beg for it a little? Not literally...


And I guess I'm trying to figure out a way to satisfy his MLC issues without feeling degraded myself? I want him to know that I find him attractive & sexy still without it somehow making me slutty?Like I've said, I wouldn't mind it occasionally. I just don't like to feel like this always.


I also think that maybe he has issues with the fact that he doesn't want sex as much as he used to and doesn't get as turned on as he used to and turns it onto me a bit...like I'm not attractive anymore. Which leads back to the cute litte strippers...

And yeah, I hate that he is probably comparing my 41 year old butt to 21 year olds...that doesn't help me out psychologically.