I liked the post, dave. I have figured out that my moral parameters do not include affairs or prostitutes, although mb is still okay, and going strong after about 30 years of practice.
I let my wife know that I won't stay in a sexless marriage forever. I intend to follow up on that.
Quote: Stand up for yourself and give your spouse a generous amount of time to prove their commitment to you (and to stop disrespecting you). After a while, if they are unwilling to "hear" you, then let your actions speak louder than your words by having a great sex life without them.
I really liked that part of your post. I think her "generous amount of time" is drawing to a close.
As others have said, sex is almost never the only problem. She has abandonment issues, we have power/control issues, I have self-esteem and confidence issues that aren't improving while I am around her, and several other issues. Either she needs to step up to the plate and participate in every aspect of this marriage, or I am going to have to separate from her.
Monk - I doubt I will be having a sexy Christmas. I have a small amount of hope for some nice times while we are on vacation in snowy Northern Wisconsin. But I won't be too surprised if I come home sexless still.
