I am an infertile woman myself, who has conceived 3 children with fertility drugs. (singletons, thank goodness!) I would like more children, but I think we will adopt, rather than go thru all that again--too many kids out there who need parents, like HD said.
I can't remember from your original post, but have you always been LD? Is this a result of the fertility process or did the ttc thing just happen to coincide with the loss of your libido?
I know a guy whose wife was taking fertility drugs and he was the HD partner. He said it really icked him out that she normally disliked sex with him, pushed away his advances but then if it was "the" days of the month, then she expected him to be all over her. It was a real mindscrew and it felt gross to him. Gross because he wanted to ML and bring a life into the world and instead he felt like she wanted his sperm but not HIM. So the fertility thing can definitely throw lots of kinks into an already difficult SSM situation. In my case, I couldn't get my LDH to have sex on the proper days...I'd wait all month, take the fertility drugs and he'd refuse to make love. It was heartbreaking.
The initiation was a good first step! Keep the momentum going and let us know how it all turns out.
