I don't know the specifics of your situation but if you make the first move it might help get things going. Alot of this depends on your current sitch. If you are at least having sex at all then its going to be easier. If your not having sex at all then I think its even more important to get things going anyway you can. The problem is in a relationship if one spouse keeps turning down the advances of the other then its get even harder and harder for the rejected spouse to start things. Imagine that old movie Ground Hog day with Bill Murray where he keeps reliving the same day over and over again. The interesting twist to the movie was that even though Bill Murray would wake up each morning and it was the same day he would remember everything from the prior days. So when a spouse constantly rejects the other spouse it has the same affect in that the rejected spouse now is stuck reliving the "same day" and eventually they will just stop making advances all together. After waking up each morning and telling yourself that today will be a better day you eventually come to realize, after repeating this hundreds or thousands of times that today won't be a better day and your stuck so you just give up.
