Welcome. You've come to the right place! It sounds like you're on the right track, you've read the book, and realize that there is a problem.
I'm afraid I'm not the best person to give you advice in your situation, but I did want to welcome you aboard. You should look around, do some reading. There are several LDWs here, you might want to look up older posts by Corri or cinemanymph.
I'm sure others will chime in soon to get you on track, but it would help if you could give us some more information. Do you have any kids? Is this your, your H's first M? When was it that your D started going down?
