Quote: I'm thinking your H might be a little shy in the reassurances department because he's afraid of getting his head bit off. Not that I'm saying you are overreacting or anything, but I noticed my H was always afraid that I was "mad" at him or "punishing" him.
you're right on track here, and I needed to be reminded of this. One thing I've figured out is that H does sometimes interpret things differently then how I've intended them...I think this is Mars/Venus stuff (yeah, I read that one finally) and when I think I'm just talking about the way something is, H tends to take it as blaming. A time or two I have been able to remember to say "i'm not blaming you or it's not your fault" and it does seem to be reassuring to him, but I gotta keep this in mind.
