Within the last month or so, H has been turning on the garage and porch light when I'm gone after dark ( I ALWAYS try to make sure "THE LIGHT'S ON" when he's gone) but I'm surprised how comforting and welcoming this feels, and it is a new behavior on his part...I am going to make sure I thank him for this, and mention how good it feels.
I did manufacture some opportunities to tell him thanks this weekend...I couldnt get a jar open, and normally I'd have fought with it until I did, instead I took it to H and asked him to do it, thanked him and told him I appreciated it when he did. I was hanging a shelf in the basement, and I asked him to put in the eye bolts (heavy duty shelf) and thanked him for doing it...I could have done it, and normally would have again fought it until I did, but I decided it was an opportunity to thank him, and a chance to help him invest a little in the basement cleaning project without too much pressure...I also told him how great it feels to snuggle up to him at night in bed (very true, it's now one of my favorite things in the whole world...I can't believe I deprived myself of this enjoyment all these years...he seems to like it as much as I do...snuggled up next to a nice warm hunk under a down comforter on cold nights...oh, yeah)
I'm thinking i'm going to write a thankyou note for somethings this after noon and put it in his lunch tomorrow...not a love note, a note of appreciation. I havent done any for a long time because of the "pressure" concern.....
