Wow! Oh Wow, Deb!!

If it isn't almost verbatim what my H said to me when I "caught" him a couple of times! How the heck would they have the nerve to say something like "Well, you shouldn't have been snooping". DUH! With our H's it does not, I repeat .. does not dawn on them that they should not have "committed" the crime .. and if I go by my H's actions , they really don't/won't (realize that) for quite a long time.

Your H now knows (again!) how absolutely violated you are feeling. You have told him in no uncertain terms how you feel. Gosh! .. I've been there, done that, seems like way too many times! I'm thinking that now you need to be very quiet (about anything to do with OW) and watch and listen to him very carefully ..

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But hey gang, I still need help, now how do I deal with Friday? I wonder if H will be coming up with something about a workshop or what ever? I can't even think straight right now......



As far as Friday and/or any other day you are "suspecting"
.. I'm thinking that you are going to have to bite that bullet and put the Morphing Deb and GAL plan of action into overdrive. Start now, Deb! Get yourself somewhat "extricated" from all of this drama. Let your H see some big time changes in you. Remember .. you don't have to "shut down" to him. You just need to start showing a totally different attitude. You can be kind,affirming, etc.. while still making your "big time" transformations! I know I've said this before (along with others) but you need to NOT be so available to him. You need to be appearing to get a life (GAL)! Which you definitely should actually (truly) be doing!

It looks like you are getting a lot of really great advice/support from a lot of wonderful people on this BB, Deb. We are all here for you! Hang in there!!

Hugs ((((Deb))))!

TC